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Ageism and the trauma it can create
Rant alert.
I grew up in the 1960's and 70's. Back then we did not have the social and legal freedoms that exist today, but we managed.
One of the ways we did manage was when it came to "hooking up" (sexually) we were much more open minded and liberal about Who we had sex with.
It was completely normal and accepted that one day you might have fun with a boy your own age and a couple days later you would get with a man your dads age and we thought nothing of it.
Now I acknowledge that part of that was the limitation of the number of recognizable sex partners (I grew up in a village of less than 10000 people) and the other was that , due to that limitation, we were more pragmatic and accepting of ANY sexual advances as long as they were respectful and kind.
Today's boys seem to have taken an attitude that is so toxic. If you're not pretty and look good on their arm, then you are subjected not only to being ignored and shunned as tho you might have a disease that was highly contagious, but they often times will make clear and hurtful comments, many times publicly, on the lack of value an older man has, that he is disgusting, that "Santa needs to go back to the workshop" or worst of all, accuse them of being pedophiles.
Do you understand how evil comments like that are? How many people are emotionally and sometimes even physically damaged by actions and statements like this? You younger guys claim that you are more open, liberal and loving than any generation in the past, and yet you harm people simply for showing an interest in you, or GODS FORBID, complimenting you on your appearance.
My Generation earned those freedoms that you enjoy...walking hand in hand together in public...dressing flamboyantly with little fear of a beat down...gay clubs that not only are not owned by the mob but actually provide ongoing support as well as a good time out.
My Suggestion is that you remember that one day YOU WILL BE 60 years old. You will LOOK 60 years old. But you will have the same sexual drive and needs as you did at 20. I HOPE that the generation that follows you will not be as hateful and cruel to you, as You are to US.
Enjoy your youth. Like a hardon after beating off, it will fade and die.
I want to thank the couple of you who "called me out". I wasn't really aware that I was behaving in a manner that is contrary to my blog (isolating younger only guys and dismissing more mature guys) deliberately.
I am currently looking into getting some counseling (seriously) for this. After all, shouldn't we simply be" A cock is a cock, enjoy life"?
Evolution "makes" young people (like all the other animals) look more beautiful in the eyes of most beholders. It is necessary for reproduction or the survival of the species.
Older people still want to look beautiful of course. But when I was young I could see the difference between an 18 and a 25 year old. The 25 year boy was way to old for me I thought when I was 18.
I can't blame nature and I don't blame myself when was young. I am way older now and I accept everything with that. I simply have to.
But young people still stay beautiful, but now only to look at!
https://www.gaystarnews.com/article/what-happens-when-im-no-longer-desirable-how-fear-of-ageing-ruined-my-20s/#gs.f35c.7zusnp
Just found this article on GAYSTAR NEWS about ageism. Intriguing perspective.
Yes, the young can be mean, nasty and dismissive of older gay guys. I totally admire those who came before me and fought for the rights I now enjoy. However, that does not give a considerable number of older guys the right to pressure, berate, prey on, etc... younger guys even after being told thanks but no thanks. Given my own past experiences, I don’t blame teenagers and twenty somethings have the default setting towards older gay guys that a lot do.
Some - not all, obviously - older guys can be quite predatory and I should imagine their constant advances quickly grow tiresome.
While your point is well taken, I notice that your "About Me" info lists turnoffs as "guys over 40 and women"????? Ageism??
This reminds me of what women are saying today. Men at any age need to be very careful when making uninvited approaches to other men (or boys). It's more a matter of courtesy than anything else. Respect the other person's space. Even if the other person seems to be willing to accept your advances, you still need to tread lightly until you are sure.
By the way, that rant was NOT just self pity motivated. A good friend of mine for many years had his life DESTROYED by a young 20-something. He showed an interest (Not sexual) in a younger man, and that young man falsely accused him of Pedophilia, saying that he had been stalking him since he was a much younger boy, which was NOT true.
We buried him last month after he committed suicide for being so labeled in his community.
'A Pity youth is wasted on the young " - Oscar Wilde