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The need to announce?
I have read about and talked to many people who have "come out", I do not understand the need for it. Perhaps in the past it was indeed important to do so but today I just dont see it. When you go to a party do str8 people announce themselves as str8? I think not so why is it important to announce your sexuality to the masses? Please do not misunderstand my point, I am not saying hide. I am just saying I do not understand why it is so important to go out waving my private parts at the crowd and screaming "I fuck boys". I dont think its anyone's business but me and my partners. My sex life has nothing to do with my work life, I dont intend to fuck my boss on the desk. ( at least during business hours) So why should I bring trouble on myself by making my sexuality an issue?
Thank you for your recent comment Leo. I appreciate your candor. I do not choose to communicate with vermin however so I will not acknowledge you further
I am in college and do not feel the need to tell anyone yet. I do have gay friends who work and they have well meaning female coworkers who try to fix them up with girls. One friend told her he was involved and the female coworker invited him and his "girlfriend" to dinner. He felt he needed to tell her he was gay
Yes. Your sexuality, identity and feelings belong to you. Its up to you decide who knows and understands you well. Anyone outing you, especially under their view of which label, is a big asshole. It's not their responsibility or right to.
Because some of us have the integrity not to lie, no matter the consequences.
I don't think I have ever told anyone I am gay; don't recall ever having done so, offhand.
But what you need to understand Freddy007 is a lot of gay dudes are just that; nothing to them if you took away their role as show off "Professional Homosexual". They've never read a book, seen a play, been to a museum, smelt flowers, given a thought for another person, had a conversation which isn't pretty shallow and childish. In a social setting they have nothing to offer and nothing to talk about so declare themselves gay to everybody.
These are also the guys (enjoying?) the drama of short term heart breaking relationships; never once does it cross their mind that as they have nothing whatsoever to offer another guy the relationship sure ain't going to last much longer than the time it takes for the dude to realize they have never .....read a book, seen a play, smelt flowers, been to a museum, or had a conversation that isn't childish and shallow.
Far from being "part" of who they are, it is "all" they are.
Personally, I am happy to see that the issue has risen to a level where it considered a personal preference. When I came out 40 years ago, It was still illegal. You could be arrested for kissing a boy in public. You would loose your job and have a criminal record. It was a disease and you could be subjected to electro-shock or insulin shock "therapy" without your consent. At the very least, your friends would avoid you and your family would be publicly shamed. You are now free to be who you are free from legal or psychological repercussions. There are still a few religious bigots out there who want to burn fags at the stake to make Jesus happy LOL, but they will burn out themselves eventually. If you need to announce, do so with impunity. If you want to just be YOU with no labels, then you are free to do so. Enjoy the hard won freedom that has been afforded to you. Live and Love freely.
although the only people that now that i am gay is my personal friends and yes of course the young man i want to blow or i want to fuck me :) :)
I agree, Freddy. Live your life. Be who you are. Anyone who may care will figure it out eventually. Don't be afraid to show up at an event with a BF. Most peeps today would consider it normal.
I'm bi and only recently started dating a guy for the first time. Until then I didn't feel it necisary to tell anyone, but the I found him and I felt kind of relieved when I told my parents siblings and a few friends.