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Mixed signals?
There is a guy in my gym, young, sexy, asian (pakistani?) sometimes wears very sexy tank tops. We got chatting in the changing room, he is a waiter in a local restaurant. He likes to shower after the workout and then chat just wearing his boxer briefs - looks so sexy but no obvious gay signals. I patted him on the arm when I left the gym recently, went into his restaurant shortly afterwards with a non-gay friend. While we were eating he stopped behind my chair and stroked my shoulders, then my hand. My friend didnt notice. Also gave us drinks on the house. Seen him in the gym since then but no follow -up, just normal chat. He doesn't look at me in the gym like a gay guy does and I know some muslim guys are very anti-gay.
What do you guys think and how do I take it further?
Maybe repeat what you did & see if he reacts. He seems interested.
here is a idea invite him over for a couple of drinks and leave some gay porn in the bathroom and hope that he goes to the bathroom lol and well if he comes out smilling well there u go :) :) and well if he comes out mad and leaves well then at least u know right :) :) lol
There's no way for us to know if he's a homosexual from our distance. Please keep your mind clear. You can see him when you can. Give him some respectful distance at the gym, smile for him and never flinch at his touch. Be ready that he may be a friendly brotherly man that is gentle to others. There are some men like that that are not gay or bi. I have met a few and accepted their friendship and showed them my respect. Some cultures don't experience much homosexual behaviors and touch between men is acceptable and not seen as homosexuality. Still, as far as I know it's not easy to be in a Muslim gay man relationship, unless you can accept his beliefs and support them.
Unconfirmed (most likely prejudiced): I've heard that in India (and some other counties), there is a sub-culture of heterosexual men that will have homosexual sex in order to have their physical release. Unfortunately, it could be risky. This doesn't make them gay. Most do it due to some financial reasons (to make some, or to save some, or can't afford to paid a woman) and to save themselves for their future wife.
Good luck with finding your answers.
Hello, sounds lovely!
I am not Muslim, nor Pakistani. However, I have many Muslim Pakistani and Muslim Arab friends, plus I lived in Amman for a short time. I was never failed to be amazed by how tactile these guys are - genuine affection, but nothing sexual, usually communicated more with a touch. In Jordan the young lads walk around arms around each other, much like they do in Soho!
I do not pretend to be an expert, nor am I trying to convince you that your situation is anything like that from my life experiences. However, look at this in the most positive way possible, the start of a beautiful friendship that may, or may not, blossom in to something more. Nurture the genuineness.
Best wishes