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I'm gay. So, obviously, I like maleness. I like mental maleness. Emotional maleness. Physical maleness. Sexual maleness. All the nnnngh! and grrrrr! and mmmmm....mixed together. Yet throughout my life two things never cease to amaze me and make me roll my eyes. Straight guys who think some kind of 'acted out' uber masculinity will turn me on. And gay guys who think the same thing. 

I like the kind of maleness that's kind of neutral, natural, normal. Even understated. Full of everything that's human. Playfulness, good humour, honesty, bluntness, straightforwardness, flirtiness, weirdness, unsureness, confusion. The kind of maleness that's so relaxed and comfortable with itself, quietly at home with itself, without any arrogance or swagger, that it never occurs to the guy to ham it up or draw attention to his masculinity because that's beneath his dignity and class; because he just doesn't think that way. He just does his thing, is interested in life, in his hobbies, in all the fun of being alive. In fact, he's so truly male that he can just be who he is, unapologetically but with a normal amount of humility.

The irony, I always think, is that the uber hyper masculine guys, always emphasizing their maleness, trying to be an 'alpha male', always almost shoving it in your face, as if that's all they can think about, are the least male, the least sexually attractive. Because they seem to be the most afraid to just be naturally, humanly who they are. in other words, the most cowardly. In other words, the least male.

Yet time and time again, I see these idiots acting like that. When gay guys act like that it's the most laughable. 

Any of you guys noticed all this bullshit and have the same...yawwwn...reaction i do?