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I used to accept anyone until I got caught out badly several years ago by a stalker who was told where I lived by 'a friend' so now I limit my friends to people I check out first BUT if they don't post or only want to see pics of me or repeatedly ask for pics of young naked boys then I delete them. Everyone is different and needs a chance but I have seen too many good guys harassed and delete their account. I currently email around 20 guys over the month who I have 'met' on GBT over the years some of whom have returned but say the same thing... it's a one way street and they do most of the posting and get little back. We chatted for a few months on GBT, had common interests other than 'interested in guys' and live in different countries. Most of what they put in their about me section was false to cover themselves and not get taken advantage of. I am now fairly vague about age, where I live but give enough to show I'm not a lunatic which, given the number of requests I get, must be acceptable to many guys. I totally understand guys wanting to be anonymous on GBT as Davey has just stated.

I really encourage guys to fill in their ABOUT ME section if they want others to know a bit about them which really helps when you're checking out a friend request.

But still respect a guys wish to be sort of still anonymous to others for privacy.

I understand your thoughts.  I myself have filled in (a little bit) my "About" profile — plus any one here can ask me anything (maybe I don't really give off the vibe? but it's true).  My "litmus test" for accepting someone, is normally just that nothing is under-age looking anywhere:  his avatar, or on his wall, or in the avatars on his friends-list.  (And, of course, that I don't recall anything about him bullying or harassing other members, on blogs or on video-comments or on pic-album comments.)

Since it's always even as Flibbertigibbet given me pain to reject anyone I accept all -have unblocked all .i seldom ask for a friend , never without a measure of respect being won   in the blogs , for excellent in the photos and videos - but I feel that I'm right now spending so much time here - I can't possibly even begin to honour all the splendid postings or even just see them . This site is too wonderful all in all - I don't mind meeting real physical people I despise letting some people down repeatedly by failing to meet actual flirting with courtesy and interest because theyre too young and everybody else because I'm still in mourning , a recovering alcoholic and can't involve myself just now let alone risk falling head over heels .

The whole friend thing is the silliest humbug imaginable; just a lot of silent prowlers who send requests to every new member and once accepted....promptly ignore them. Anyone would think the more friends you have added inches to your dick.

I don't think I've ever sent a 'request', but get the occasional one which I tend to accept without worrying about what is on their profile. Those I interact with most on GBT aren't actually on my friend list.

I have 287 friends on my list. I interact and chat with about 7 on a daily bases. 

Be great if a friend request had to be sent as a PM and you accepted it on what was said and by viewing their wall.

I know you can change the Default words of a request but it would be good if guys had no choice but to write their own words like how a normal pm is written. .

I found this blog interesting

I would tend to agree with @zayden...although I rarely request friendships I have readily accepted them. Over time I have become a bit more selective. I can kind of live with no avatar is you are new. But if there is nothing in your profile that gives me some understanding of who you want me to know, I tend to reject. I always try to send a note explaining my why. And would be happy to accept once they have a profile. And the presence of underage children dressed or not is problematic. I have never purged my list. Some are there and have been gone for a long time. But seeing them there brings back memories of when they were here and the times we may have shared.

I just went through my Friend list and deleted anyone who hasn't logged on in more than a year. I was surprised at how many I deleted.

Just today I received a friend request from a long standing member who still has a blank wall and the only info. is "interested in guys"..... even so instead of rejecting the request I messaged back

asking why he asked for friendship.  For every 10 or more requests I receive I only send one myself.   I would not count someone a real friend as opposed to a cyber friend witout first exchanging a lot of personal information which had the ring of truth by private msg / skype etc. over a long period of time.   Generally I agree with Zayden.

In less than a month I have figured out that when someone adds you it is for the following reasons. They want to increase their friends list to look popular, they want to monitor you so they friend you so they can find you faster, they want to be able to get to your profile faster to view your postings, and about 10% want to be friends and chat sometimes when they have the extra time. I have my friends request on auto-accept for anyone to follow if they wish. I have personalty only requested friendship with 7 people and if someone wants to chat I will do so if I have the extra time and it is not over nonsense. I have made 9 good friends on this site and appreciate the interactions we have even though it is limited because we all have a life off the internet. For me GBT is a place to get away from real life stress and relax for others it might be all they have and friendships even on a website are very important to them. Guess what I am saying is you do what is right for you when it comes to accepting friendships. We are all different and have different needs and reasons for being on this site. Just do not make someone feel irrelevant because they do not look at friendship here as you do, just say no thanks. And remember not everyone on this site speaks English, several use translators and this also might be why they request friendships as they do or communicate less with others.  Well that was my two cents worth, anyone got change for a nickel? Lol

I feel the same way as you Josh. The whole "friend" thing on sites means different things to different members, as seen in these comments. But I have made a few real friends on here and I cherish them.

I didn't know you could add a message when you send a friend request.

Don't care.  99.999999...% of About Me profiles will be untrue.  If this was a Paid Site, then maybe about 98% will be untrue.  Its a FREE porn site, thats it.  Why do people really care about this or the ratings (star score) is beyond me.  This is a place to get away from my daily life.  Its not who I am in real life.

yes and no. it would be nice to know a little bit, but the friend thing is introducing someone to your wall and your interests as well as seeing their's. making friends comes in exchanging messages either on each other's walls or email. that's how you get to know people.but i do struggle with the friends i accept who are only into young boys.i don't ignore them, there are is no controls on the site, but i delete wall posts of children. 

Nope. It's a porn site. If your pics are good I'll friend ya. If you make a request to me, instantly accepted. No need to tell me squat. 

We're in the porn side of the internet.  80% of everything here is a total lie.  Even YOU might just be a link to malware or another fucking flirt4free or LiveJasmin link.

Anyway, I'll be honest about everything, want to meet same, real people, ADULTS anyway.  And at least the side of this site I see, I can't imagine living breathing teenagers ever come here.

So Josh, happy to share all the details of my life, but not posted in porn forums.

I love this. great idea

If I see they are into "boys" the friend request will not get accepted

Well if you go to my About Me page you'll find lots of info. And it's all on the level.