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When you forgive someone, you make the choice to give up your desire for revenge and feelings of resentment. You also stop judging the person who caused you the hurt. Instead of revenge, resentment, and judgment, you show generosity, compassion, and kindness. In forgiveness, you don’t forget that the offense occurred nor do you excuse it. You substitute your negative with positive feelings, thoughts, and behavior.
Some people are naturally forgiving, both toward others and themselves. It’s easier for them to respond to any specific act of the person who’s committed the offense. Those who don’t have this ability may find it more difficult to grant forgiveness when they’ve hurt or harmed, but it is possible for them to do so, depending on the situation.
Forgiveness is the remedy. It allows you to focus on the future without combating the past. To understand the infinite potential of everything going forward is to forgive everything already behind you. Without forgiveness, wounds can never be healed and personal growth can never be achieved. It does not mean you are erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you are letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life.
forgiveness is the remedy, i know Billy, you said it a few times and i was thinking a lot about, but i didn't change my mind. not to forgive doesn't mean to me that you have the desire for revenge, revenge comes from hate, but it's not necessarily the person you hate, maybe it's only the thing he did that causes your hate. i admire that you can be so generous to forgive, you have a big heart. maybe i'm not strong enough, but how can you forgive someone who hurt you day by day and tortured you every night, someone who never said sorry, or never regrets, even till he died? or someone who tried to say sorry, but didn't really mean it from the deepest of his heart? who only regrets because he gets a lesser punishment? who only said sorry because someone told him to do? how many chances will you give someone who hurt you over and over and over again? sorry, it has to come from both sides, i can't forgive someone like that. and to forgive doesn't mean to forget, even if it's now a long time ago, and i will never see them again, the scars have remained and it still hurts, the pain and the nightmares will never disappear completely. i know some might think again that i'm full of hate, but i'm not, i don't have any desire for revenge, it can't change anything anymore, but i would never ever forgive, it would only make them feel better, not me. if something happened one time, or under special circumstances, i can forgive and we could still be friends, but not everytime and not everything. i found my own ways to deal with the things happened, and i'm happy. forgiveness is the remedy, maybe it works for some, for me love is the remedy. i surround myself with people i love and who love me, if you feel true love, everything else doesn't count anymore.
I try hard to forgive, but continuously getting bullied at work...................dont know, sorry
I have read this 4 times now and its so true Billy.... Life is so short and I think the world needs a lot more forgiveness in it, myself included.
No one is perfect and we all portray examples of this kind of behaviour from time to time – so remember that when it comes to communicating with your friend about being upset. Talk to them about what has upset you: was it the way the spoke to you, did they offend you, did they go against your morals? By communicating what is important, you will be able to strengthen and take your friendship to a deeper level.
True words
It's a nice time of the year to read your message, Billy. Any time is but especially now. Choosing to keep letting go and move ahead. Merry Christmas hugs
Excellent blog Billy! I believe that when we forgive it reduces stress in our lives and allows us to live longer and happier lives.
Wow, nicely expressed. This really is one of the keys to enjoying life I reckon. Not just forgiving others, but being prepared to admit mistakes and offer apologies ourselves more readily when we've messed up. That bit of human humility makes us feel better, and not like we've somehow lost some kind of game. We live in a culture where so many people feel they have to 'never back down' and have to 'score points', particularly certain types of men who think it somehow diminishes their masculinity to apologise to anyone for anything. But not feeling like we have to 'win' all the time is also a great way of letting go, letting go of an uncessary, conflict causing, wound causing, time wasting burden.
The last sentence is this most important....and sometimes the hardest. Well said
^^^Always ask forgiveness of those youv' wronged and always be willing to forgive those that ask it of you. Have a merry christmas everyone, Jack :3
“The paradox of vengefulness is that it makes men dependent upon those who have harmed them, believing that their release from pain will come only when their tormentors suffer.”