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When you were a kid, were you called a weirdo, and if so, how did you deal with it?

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When I was a little I was called a “weirdo” all the time.  Because I didn’t like sports. I loved to read. I liked math and science.  And it hurt a lot. Because it’s never okay when a person makes fun of you for something you didn’t choose. We don’t choose to be nerds. We can’t help it that we like these things and we shouldn’t apologize for liking these things. There’s nothing wrong with that. I wish that I could tell you that there’s a really easy way to just not care, but the truth is, it hurts. But here’s the thing that you might be able to understand. As a matter of fact, I’m confident you’ll be able to understand this. When a person makes fun of you, when a person’s cruel to you, it has nothing to do with you. It’s not about what you said, it’s not about what you did, it’s not about what you love. It’s about them feeling bad about themselves. They feel sad. They don’t get positive attention from their parents. They don’t feel as smart as you. They don’t understand the things that you understand. Maybe one of their parents is really pushing them to be a cheerleader or a baseball player or engineer or something they just don’t want to do. So they take that out on you because they can’t go and be mean to the person who’s actually hurting them.  So, when a person is cruel to you like that, I know that this is hard, but honestly, the kind and best reaction is to pity them. And don’t let them make you feel bad because you love a thing. Maybe find out what they like and talk about it, how they love it. I’ll bet you find out that a person who loves tether ball, loves tether ball exactly the same way that you like Doctor Who. But you just love different things. And I will tell you this, it absolutely gets better as you get older.  I know it’s really hard when you’re in school and you’re surrounded by the same 400 people a day that pick on you and make you feel bad about yourself.  But there was 129,000 people at  Comic-Con a 4 day city wide event  in Vancouver this past  March  who went through the exact same thing and we’re all doing really well.  Don’t you ever let a person make you feel bad because you love something they decided is something only for nerds. Your loving thing is for you :)


 

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swiftjohn
swiftjohn
9 years ago

I remember the first day I showed up for tenth grade at my new high school. I was walking along on my way to my first class with dozens of other students out it the quad when I was accosted by a schoolyard bully accompanied by a couple of his hanger-ons. He shoved me and uttered a couple of insults as his two remora stood there snickering. What he said was irrelevant. It was bullying. I dropped my books, reached up and grabbed him by the shirt collar, pulled him forward and down putting him off balance, and then proceeded to beat him in the face with my fist several times then kneed him in the solar plexus. As he laid on the ground curled up like a monkey fucking a football gasping for air and bleeding from his mouth and nose, I calmly gathered up my books and strolled off like nothing had happened without ever having said a single word. And his two friends did nothing. This is because all bullies are fundamentally cowards. This I already knew. Word of it went through the school like a wave. For several days afterwards, I would notice other students pointing me out to their friends and whispering. I never had a problem with bullying after that. So my answer to this question has been and always will be - violence. Simply because it works every time. Bullies bully because they suffer from low self worth and the only way they can feel better about themselves is by demeaning and dominating others. So bullying is done not for any rational reason but rather for irrational emotional satisfaction. And you can't deal rationally with irrationality. Bullying is a violent behavior based on an emotional need on the part of the bully. Therefore, violence is the only appropriate response. Unless, of course, you're willing to spend every day running and hiding from bullies. Too many kids, particularly gay kids, are driven to suicide because of school yard bullies. Kids who might still be with us today if only they had fought back at the very beginning.

Yoshi312
Yoshi312
9 years ago

Well put. I wish everyone would see things this way. Maybe then the world would be rid of a few less evils.

austinpscottt
austinpscottt
9 years ago

its doesnt stop in life, which is a bummer, try hard not to let it bother me, love, Scott

9 years ago

Thank you Cole..... Yea, it pretty much goes into one ear and out the other with me. I used to get mad and upset but now I know they are just angry at themselves and so closed minded about it. The cool thing... The BEST thing about those that get picked on is that I know who I want to hang out with, they are 100% themselves and not trying to be anyone else. I think they are the best of friends too. Love you COLE!! and Thank you for posting this, it is perfect.

9 years ago

When I was 14 I just gave up trying to fit into their expectations, retreated more and more, lived entirely in the world of books, didn't try to understand, stayed away and became weirder, a self-fulfilling prophecy. I still live there, am a successful student and want no part of their nasty world.

9 years ago

That happens all my live as a kid and a teen. I hated the time of my youth but also miss them so much, but not the way it was for me. I started to hide, no friends, nothing but fear of the next day in school. There exists no internet that time, just some games on Commodore 64, no social communities, i was lonely.
I need till 30 to get my first gay sexual experience and still 10 more years to get a normal private live with some friends but still miss my youth, a youth i never had. I'm angry a lot of times and still get depressions.
Kids don't know how easily they can destroy a whole live of another kid by mistreating him.

9 years ago

Just turn out hotter / cooler than they are you won't have any problems...

9 years ago

That blog is so very true. When people say hurtful things about you, it's not you who has the problem it's the person saying or doing the bad things to you. It's THEM who has the problem not you. I have now proven that to be true lots of times. Think positive Be Strong and you have a good start

RobbietheRobot
RobbietheRobot
9 years ago

The Brits say it thusly: Piss Off! I say: Too bloody right mate! As long as I don't hurt anyone, I don't give a damn wat others think.

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