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I don't see anything to add to the great advice and straight facts by swiftjohn. I can't even imagine sucking but not swallowing and am not big on anal sex anyway.

I'll tell you a story though. In London I knew a 20 year old boy who worked in a gay bar. To say he was beautiful is a massive understatement. He had that perfect boyishness even into his 20s, androgyny that was more about his playfulness than genuine campness, which was always a running joke he played with more than anything else. It wasn't just 'oh yeah you're young and slim so you're cute': he was honestly breathtaking. And he was interesting, intelligent, and above all, a really kind soul with a biting edge to him. I'd never met anyone like him.

But he'd messed up his life. Carried away on drugs once he'd had unprotected anal with two men and by the age of 19 had HIV. When he should have been blossoming, loving and enjoying the benefit of all he had to offer, everything was a shadow over his head.

I got to know him fairly well and it always broke my heart how his natural cheekiness, loveliness and intelligence were rendered embittered by what had happened, for which he knew he had only himself to blame.

Follow swiftjohn's advice and make yourself a firm rule. Only have unprotected anal sex with someone you utterly trust to your core and even then pay attention to what's going on around you.

@TwinkLust - You mentioned in your post that when you suck a bare cock that you spit and don't swallow his ejaculation. I assume you do that because you think that will help protect you from STDs. Well, it doesn't. The acids in your stomach will immediately kill any STDs in his sperm. If he has gonorrhea or syphilis you can contract it just from the sperm in your mouth and whether you swallow or not is completely irrelevant so you may as well swallow. In the case of HIV, it is harder to contract it through oral sex than by anal but not impossible. When the person doing the sucking has bleeding gums or open sores in the mouth, this will be the usual route that HIV is transmitted with oral sex. So if you like to work glory holes (which I would never do as much as I would like to) at least wait a few hours after brushing and flossing. And another thing. I've always believed that not swallowing is both insulting and rude. Sperm is the sexual essence of a guy's physical being. When you spit out his sperm, you are essential demonstrating your rejection of his essence and therefore he as a person and his feelings are hurt. When you swallow his sperm, you are demonstrating your complete acceptance of his entire being. When a guy finished ejaculating in my mouth, I make a big show of rolling his sperm around in my mouth going mmmmmmm and when I swallow going aaahhhhhhhh, all with a big broad smile beaming on my face. Then I tell him how delicious his sperm is and how I'd like to suck him again sometime. This leaves him with a good feeling of himself in that he is completely accepted as a person. There is much more to giving a guy a blow job than just bringing him an orgasm. He must leave with feelings not only contentment but with self worth and acceptance. That way, he will keep coming back again and again for more which is in my own personal self interest. I love the feeling of bare, hard cockflesh in my mouth. I love the feeling and taste of sperm on my tongue. I love the feeling of euphoria that washes over me when I have a fresh load of hot sperm in my stomach. So if he's a guy whose cock I would suck in the first place, then he's a guy I want coming back for more. Thus, I always provide oral pleasures with that intent in mind. And so TwinkLust, go ahead and swallow. You have absolutely nothing to lose by swallowing and everything to gain. But do what I do - choose your partners wisely.

Hi, you should use condom. Don't mess up with your health.

Get a friend and you both make a test for STDs and then you can enjoy sex with a friend.
Sex is much better with someone you are in love with.

I only go bareback both giving and receiving. But my idea of safe sex is sex with safe people who share my enthusiasm for bareback but don't take strange dick. I have a small circle of gay friends and we only do each other. We all have been tested for all STDs and are all negative. We've all met each other in various gyms so we all are very health conscious by nature but we are also fully aware of the risks that exist out there and aren't going to jeopardize our health by working glory holes in gay bars yet we still want to enjoy the delights of bareback sex. The term is fuck buddies. If I meet someone new I tell him I want to bareback and insist we both get tested for each other's peace of mind before any sperm is exchanged. If he's unwilling to do so, I simply pass on him. So far none have said no and were in fact quite agreeable about it. The gay porn stars also do the same thing. They only have their off-camera recreational sex with others in the industry as a way of protecting each other. If it's discovered that they've been taking dick from the outside, they're frozen out. So by choosing the right boyfriends and with proper discipline and self control, you should be able to enjoy bareback sex without fear. For me, sucking a cock with a condom on it is like sucking on a dildo. It's just not the same. When I have a dick in my mouth, I want to explore the feel real cock flesh and the rubbery texture of a cockhead on my tongue. And when he reaches orgasm, I want to feel and taste his sperm ejaculating on my tongue as it sprays from the meatus. Once he's done shooting and with my lips sealed tightly around his shaft to keep his sperm from leaking out of my mouth, I'll slowly come off his cock. I'll swirl his sperm around in my mouth savoring its flavor and texture and then swallow it all down. I'll immediately return to his softening cock and with my lips, milk out all of the sperm remaining in his urethra. Afterwards, I seem to be possessed of an incredible feeling of well being as if the flavor of sperm or having it in my stomach releases a flood of endorphins. I get just as much pleasure from sucking a dick as does the guy whose dick I'm sucking. I don't get that by sucking on rubber. The same thing goes with anal sex. When a guy ejaculate his sperm in my rectum, I seem to feel a wonderful afterglow deep inside me as I absorb his sperm into my body and make him a part of me. When two guys have each other's sperm inside them, it creates a very powerful bond and closeness between them that they don't share with others. You don't seem to have that when you fuck each other wearing a condom. Also, the orgasms that you have when fucking bareback are much more intense and satisfying than those with a condom. For me, sex with a condom is merely one step above masturbation. And since you mentioned rimming in your post, keep in mind that the person being rimmed has just had a thorough enema and bathed so the entire area is squeaky clean inside and out - probably cleaner than the mouth of the person doing the rimming. So my advice to you is to not fear bareback but rather embrace it. But do it within a monogamous relationship where you've both been tested. If you're just not into the whole boyfriend thing, and a lot of us aren't including me, then try to build a network of fuck buddies that you can feel safe with. Then throw away the condoms, break out the anal lube and enjoy gay sex at its best - bareback.

Fear is natural when considering such big steps as those. Definitely use a condom for fucking; feels fantastic raw but also feels great with a rubber! As for oral, that's another matter; there are dangers there as well and I am always a little worried after blowing a guy but I do it without a rubber but don't swallow. Finally , rimming is an acquired taste--pardon the pun! Never thought I'd ever do it as the act sounds pretty dirty but wow was I wrong! :) First few times I did it, I used a dental dam but not anymore. Just be careful and use good judgement--hope this advice helps--good luck!

Some people bareback. The ones who are in a monogamous relationship with somebody to whom they are willing to trust their life are the ones who make sense to me. Not sure about the porn actors all around the world, but in the U.S. most get tested regularly. However, testing has a flaw. It usually takes 6-7 weeks after exposure to HIV for a person to test positive. The monogamous couples I know will go together to get re-tested every 4 months in more of a 'I have nothing to hide' sense. People who say they are clean but do not have recent test results to share are not to be trusted. About 25% of the people in the U.S. who are HIV+ do not know they are. And, there are other STDs around. My advice is to use a condom. If you ever get in an LTR where you both vow to remain true to each other, and you get tested regularly in addition, then try barebacking. Yes, there is treatment for most, but not all, STDs. But it is lots better to avoid needing treatment. Here is a good website with good info: http://www.managingdesire.org/GaySexWithoutRegret.html