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good question and go with some what i use to have on me profile about younger older (im fixin it back soon) anyways ~ as some may know im molested at 11 almost non verbal aspie in own world. for time i was scared of all males and this not why im queer either knew that i like me own when like 9 part reason i get home school in junior high/middle cos dont really know you dont kiss boys lol. so i go to boarding school for autie/aspies and all the boy time fun stuff there and relax. graduate and come home. im turnin 18 meet good lookin man who i think has eye for me so gaydar works. yup and take real slow and careful even sneak around but for true, my first love and adult relationship. so hard to go on cos of 'complicated' situations but have a summer together and decide for each other to love enough to let go cos be trouble for us both if ever found out. he 35 almost 36 2x my age but gentle and take away fears of what done to me as a boy. look real guys, gay is so much about young and ya i am now but what is options ahead? die? i want to live to 100! so all talk about bullyin and yet i learnt from me uncle about when he was young and all the movement start to stop homo hate and yet many suffer and even die. ya like bein young but see me own rents, dad gonna be 72 and hey this country mean to older people. i am grateful to older queers some who even die for us to have it easier today. so im kinda mad at me own say in turn ofss 'fat hairy old' cos u know, its kind of bullyin too. dont have to sleep with no one and hey you can get rape by someone your own age right? then some you know i help the homeless guys who hustlin and you know, most em not even queer. a few and they get kick out cos of bein queer. here question one of me best mates here ask 'can 2 queers be friends without sex?' why it only about sex? im friends here with guys 60 or more. they still guys and homo right? but we talk about gardens or bakin or other guys dont mean we jump in do c2c or text j-o and that. this place all about sexuality and like i say before im here so not judgin none! but knowin more than most what n ireland was like, hate and murder and war and other things i read cos alone for so much time but like read and searchin, we gotta be nicer to each other. enough people hatin on us. so im thinkin when people say 'open minded' but also turn off about 'older' its not only about sex and this all can be more real and do good things like STOP SUICIDE if we together in a world want to break us still. i can only put here to honor the love i had, ~M~ thank you and always love you. im happy he is with a man now for about a year. just seen em both at boston marathon. ya, it hurt some, but that only mean it real love. now move on and honest, im fallin in love with someone here but not rush, take slow and learnt good that your most true best friend make the bestest buddy in your life and then say not look at all the cute boys so much cos they keep comin and look how fast the ones u watchin now get older. dam feel for so long i have big nose buddies here say im cute so hell im tired of closet of brain and sexuality. im turnin 21 july 7 and few days before i want to tear out closet, put in dumpster and burn it. i dont care how young or old people are that want celebrate that. free feels good. even better to have love from friends all ages.

I'm 19 and I'm attracted to guys in their late 20's early 30's with the whole rough and rugged thing going on, duno why though.
But I've had crushes on older guys from a young age, that said though, I'm just as attracted to guys my age, just saying :P

After many years of straight marriage and children, my gay side took over in my 50's since when I have had 3 young partners in their teens or 20s (because older guys simply do not interest me)... at the age of 68 I have been in a civil partnership for 6 years with a boy who was 22 when it started... so far as sex is concerned I am not the least bit bothered if he has one night stands after a night out indeed I welcome it because it would be stupid to believe at my age that I can give him all he needs in sex.
Mentally we have an amazing amount in common including the fact that I am fully accepted by his family. I think the fact that I have been through their teenage years with my own children helps me to give to my young partners almost the same unconditional love as one gives one's children. I think it also helps that I am not wealthy so I know boys do not stay with me for the money ..on the contrary I have just retired and my partner will be subsidising me in the future. So I say go for it ... after all "tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" (misquoted I am sure)

I was 41 when I met my boy who was 19 at the time. For the record he came up to me and started talking. I asked him how old he was and said he was 21 but I later found out he was 19. WE were together for 12 yrs. I asked him the same question as to why he liked older men? he simply stated that he always liked older guys. I remember taking him out into the desert on my motorcycle and sitting him on a rock. I told him that I was flattered but the age difference was so great. He simply said look lets take it day by day. and for 12 yrs it went day by day and it was a very rewarding 12 yrs. so those of you who think that older men have nothing to offer you I would say step of of your comfort zone. I think you will find that an older man is much more patent and a bit more romantic. I know I am.

I think it is a matter of degree. If the older man is say in his fifties and the young man is late teen early/twenties, then there are very practical and obvious considerations for long term relationships. It is also I suggest, unlikely that each has similar tastes, the young man may still want an active social life, possibly among his own age group. The older guy may find this hard going and may be content to opt for a quieter life. Such older/younger realtionships do exist I am sure but for my part I am happy to admire young bodies from afar and, at most, a mutual flirtation on sites like these.

Agree 100% with rontootsy on his scolarlt explaination. This rite of passage to adulthood was heldby many cultures. The most prominent was the city state of the Trojans. Their guidance was similar to their neighboring Greek City Statesbut they took it a little further.It was felt that the homosexual experience formed a stronger warrior bond. To this day - The Trojan warrior was and is considered to be the strongest in bond.

I can only speak from my own experience.. I am57 and my partner of 5 yrs is 38.. asian and very boyish in build. we are both slim and have simple natures .we have a great life together and love eachother deeply. we share the housework pretty evenly and have similar tastes in food and each enjoys the other physically. I enjoy his smooth small build and he enjoys my bigger and slightly hairy body. we are both versatile but as he is smaller than I, it is easier and more pleasurable for him to top mosty. we have mutual respect for eachothers family and culture and both have similar finacial means. we both like porn when we are apart and interestingly both look for images that reflect our partners . A marriage made in heaven really. I have to say that we have several friends of similar ethnic matches and ours appears to be a very rare total success story.

The most common form of same-sex relationships between males in Greece was "paiderastia" meaning "boy love". It was a relationship between an older male and an adolescent youth. A boy was considered a "boy" until he was able to grow a full beard. In Athens the older man was called erastes, he was to educate, protect, love, and provide a role model for his eromenos, whose reward for him lay in his beauty, youth, and promise.
The roots of Greek pederasty lie in the tribal past of Greece, before the rise of the city-state as a unit of political organization. These tribal communities were organized according to age groups. When it came time for a boy to embrace the age group of the adult and to "become a man," he would leave the tribe in the company of an older man for a period of time that constituted a rite of passage. This older man would educate the youth in the ways of Greek life and the responsibilities of adulthood.
The rite of passage undergone by Greek youths in the tribal prehistory of Greece evolved into the commonly known form of Greek pederasty after the rise of the city-state, or polis. Greek boys no longer left the confines of the community, but rather paired up with older men within the confines of the city. These men, like their earlier counterparts, played an educational and instructive role in the lives of their young companions; likewise, just as in earlier times, they shared a sexual relationship with their boys. Penetrative sex, however, was seen as demeaning for the passive partner, and outside the socially accepted norm.
An elaborate social code governed the mechanics of Greek pederasty. It was the duty of the adult man to court the boy who struck his fancy, and it was viewed as socially appropriate for the younger man to withhold for a while before capitulating to his mentor's desires. This waiting period allowed the boy to ensure that his suitor was not merely interested in him for sexual purposes but felt a genuine emotional affection for him and was interested in assuming the mentor role assigned to him in the pederastic paradigm.
The age limit for pederasty in ancient Greece seems to encompass, at the minimum end, boys of twelve years of age. To love a boy below the age of twelve was considered inappropriate, but no evidence exists of any legal penalties attached to this sort of practice. Traditionally, a pederastic relationship could continue until the widespread growth of the boy's body hair, when he is considered a man. Thus, the age limit for the younger member of a pederastic relationship seems to have extended from 12 to about 17 years of age.
The ancient Greeks, in the context of the pederastic city-states, were the first to describe, study, systematize, and establish pederasty as a social and educational institution. It was an important element in civil life, the military, philosophy and the arts. There is some debate among scholars about whether pederasty was widespread in all social classes, or largely limited to the aristocracy.